How to Squirt (Alone or with a Partner)
Can Everyone Squirt?
But most sex educators and researchers suspect that number is much higher. “It is my belief that everyone with a vulva can squirt if they have a coordinated pelvic floor and a good relationship with their vulva,” says Jean.
Melancon agrees that, in theory, the majority of vulva-owners should be able to learn how to squirt. But it’s hard to know for sure, she says. For instance, in theory, everyone with nipples could enjoy nipple stimulation, but that’s not necessarily the case, she explains. The same goes for butt stuff. (Related: Does Anal Sex Feel Good or Hurt?)
Translation: It’s unknown exactly how many vulva-owners can/will/could squirt. But if you’re interested, it’s totally worth exploring how to squirt or how to make your partner squirt.
“Like orgasms, the way to achieve squirting will vary person-to-person, day-to-day,” says Jean. But usually, these steps can help you learn how to squirt – or help you make your partner squirt.
1. Prep your space. Some vulva-owners can squirt a whole lot of fluid! And it’s probably not going to happen unless you’re totally fine getting your surroundings all wet – nothing kills the mood like worrying you’ll ruin your new comforter. Melancon recommends prepping your space with a towel or Liberator Moisture-Proof Blanket. “If you’re into medical play, you might also try putting down incontinence pads or puppy pads, both of which are super absorbent,” she adds.
2. Get good and turned on. Like any good sexual experience , the first major step in learning how to squirt is proper foreplay (even if it’s just with yourself). “Arousal and engorgement are key for squirting, so the longer you spend getting aroused, the better,” says Jean. If that means letting your partner go down on you while you stimulate your nipples, do that! If that means rocking a butt plug while using a clit vibrator on yourself, do that!
3. Locate your urethral sponge. Use your own clean, well-manicured, lubed-up fingers (or have your partner use their fingers) to penetrate your vagina. When you’re aroused, about 2 inches in, along the front wall, you might be able to feel a spongy, quarter-sized zone that’s extra-sensitive to the touch. If you found it and it feels good, Jean recommends using windshield-wiper-like motion along this zone. (Note: Not everyone has a super-sensitive G-spot.)
Research shows that between one-tenth and one-half of vulva-owners report squirting over the course of their lifetime, according to the International Society for Sexual Medicine
“You may have heard that ‘if it feels like you have to pee, that means you’re doing it right,”” says Melancon. “But that’s actually not true. If you feel like you have to pee and it’s uncomfortable, it means you weren’t aroused enough before trying to stimulate your G-spot.” In this case, return to step 2 for a hot minute (or ten!) to make the most out of your how-to-make-yourself-squirt journey. (Related: Why Do I Feel Like I Need to Pee During Sex?)
4. Let a squirt sex toy help. The G-spot generally responds well to firm pressure, according to Melancon, so this kind of stimulation can potentially help you squirt. Metal G-spot wands such as the Joy Pure Wand (Buy It, $125, babeland) and Le Wand Bow, (Buy It, $125, lewand) work well. (In fact, I’ve written previously about how much I love the nJoy Pure Wand.) You might also test out one of these sex educator-recommended G-spot vibrators.
5. Touch your clit. Fun fact: You don’t need internal stimulation to make yourself squirt, says Jean, who recommends experimenting with clit suction toys, such as the Womanizer Premium (Buy It, $199, babeland), Satisfyer Pro 2 (Buy It, $50, babeland), or WeVibe Melt (Buy It, $149, babeland). “These toys stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly, which can be uncomfortable for some. The G-Spot is part of the clitoris after all, which means the G-spot will be indirectly stimulated,” she says.